Blame yourself in positive way


Sadly, it's all too easy and irresistible for most humans to play the victim game. The thing that is impressive about self-proclaimed victims is how tenacious they are in directing their energy into shunning responsibility and complicating their lives. I hope that you won't fall into the trap of experiencing victimhood too often - given that people who do so are seldom successful. Claiming you are a victim is the ultimate expression of selfishness because you are basically saying that "everything is about me." If you play the victim game, you should get yourself one of those T-shirts that say, "Yes, it is all about me." 

The truth is, it's not all about you. It never has been and it never will be. With one trivial exception, this world is made of 7 billion other human beings, a good portion of them with minds thinking in one form or another, "It's all about me." If it's all about you, then do something - everything possible - for yourself. Don't expect any of the 7 billion others to do something for you. You will be waiting a long, long time.

Victims are known for their incredible ability to complain, which is probably the worst possible thing you can do if you want to succeed at anything. Complaining keeps you a sufferer and does nothing to liberate you. When you are constantly a victim, you remain in a rot - and the only major difference between a rot and a grave is the dimensions!

if you want to get out of the rut, you must stop being the victim. Clearly, if you have been passing blame for your shortcomings, now is the time to stop - not tomorrow, but today. Stop blaming society. Stop blaming the education system. Stop blaming the government. Stop blaming the President. Stop blaming the economy.

So the mystery deepens. Who or what else is left to blame? Yourself, of course! Who is responsible for your life situation? "If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself," German poet and novelist Rainer Maria Rilke reminded us. "Tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches."

Blaming yourself in a positive way is the best way to respond to your shortcomings and setbacks. After you have signed an agreement or contract of sorts, for instance, it's pointless to blame anyone else when you discover the terms aren't as generous to you as you had initially thought. Having failed to read the small print is your fault and no one else's. You have no option but to fulfill your part of the contract. You may not have gotten as much as you had anticipated - but you did get an important extra you hadn't anticipated. The bonus is the lesson that from now on you should read the small print carefully.

The day you start blaming yourself in a positive way is the day you are well on your way to a life that works. Winners blame themselves; losers blame others. Are you overextended financially like most people in Western society today? If you want to be in a better financial position than the masses, blame yourself; you are a victim of your own scheming. It's time to take control of your life and find ways to either reduce your spending or earn more money.

The choice is yours. You can be a victim or you can be successful - you can't be both, however. With the self-imposed suffering that invariably accompanies a victim mentality; you are three-quarters of the way to defeat without even having started. Blaming others will keep you on the road to perpetual failure.


Still don't believe this? Well, I have yet to go to an awards celebration where the person with the most blame of others and personal excuses for not accomplishing anything significant was featured as the main attraction.




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